Fear...

Romans 12:2: "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will."


You got heart, somethin a lot of folks don't have,you've been thru more than a lot of people can even think about, and you made it. THAT SPEAKS VOLUMES, about you as a person and god's purpose for you.

I also agree with your definition of feAr, that it is a mental disease, because fear to me IS ALLOWING SOMETHING TO CONTROL YOU TO A POINT THAT IT RESTRICTS YOUR ACTIONS, THOUGHTS, EMOTIONS, etc.

So fear, doesn't always have to be 'scary', if that makes any sense and I'll explain why. The bible says we should fear no man, and only fear god. If fear is allowing something to control you, then in my opinion the bible is saying...let NO (hu)MAN control you, only GOd. When we allow God to control ouur thoughts actions and emotions...it often does not result in something scary...but instead in having your life under control.

I myself believe that I fear love, or at least letting my gaurd down. The last person that I loved, hurt me and I can honestly say that til this day I STILL FEAR HOW WHAT HE DID TO MY EMOTIONS AND SELF-WORTH (by just blantantly showing that he didn't care...and it didn't matter to him when we weren't friends anymore) WILL EFFECT MY FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS/FRIENDSHIPS. I go into situations thinking 'Maybe if I give my all to someone who doesn't quite think I'm worthy of it, will prove to them that I AM WORTHY.' Or if I'm in a situation where I'm sure the person cares about me, I say 'I'll never be able to give my all to this person, because he still has a part of my heart, and if I really love someone I should give them my whole heart.' Which means I give up on that person who is there for me, and already has an understanding of my heart.

Someone told me that the best way to change your LIFE is to change your THOUGHTS. When you allow that fool into your thoughts, you are also adding him into your life. He becomes a part of the way you react to things and the way you do things. YOU DON'T WANT THAT...YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE HIM. Not liking him + not liking him in your thoughts = NOT LIKING YOUR THOUGHTS. What makes you strong is your ability to REBUKE the thoughts you have of him and replace them with thoughts of God. Believe me, that don't mean we gotta be perfect...that just means we begin to allow the positive being that has loved us since before we were even in the womb, to replace the negative presence that never loved us to begin with.


It's not something that will happen over night, Just like walls aren't built in a day, they aren't torn down that quick either. But we have to recognize the difference between when GOD is knocking down walls and when Satan is creating strongholds.

Fear is something that I'm just beginning to break down from; because DJ told me that until I love myself, I can't love anyone right. It came from Galatians 5:14. If you continue to allow the fear of someone who didn't love you in your thoughts, you lose that love for yourself, and disable yourself from loving anyone else. Im going wayyyy off of fear. so I'll bring it back.

But I Look at it this way, whatever I FEAR, is what I ALLOW to control me. AND I DON'T WANT ANYTHING TO CONTROL ME EXCEPT GOD (take control of me/my life is yours to keep forever). So now to keep those 'fear factors' from controlling me, I ask myself ' DO I WANT THIS TO CONTROL MY LIFE? DOES GOD WANT THIS TO CONTROL ME? IS THIS WORTH MY LIFE? IS THIS DISABLING CONTROL ONE THAT IS GOOD OR BAD? (like disabling cursing vs. disabling loving)